Saturday, November 29, 2008
Waxing moon
Cloudy and cold
Iām exhausted, both physically and mentally. It was a busy, bittersweet roller coaster of a couple of days, and I feel like I could sleep for about a week.
The trip up on Wednesday was as smooth as could be ā no traffic until we hit the Maine border. Couldnāt believe it. In fact, we got to Maine so early we couldnāt stop and eat lunch at our chosen spot in York because it was too early!
We ran some errands, did a bit of grocery shopping, grabbed a snack, and arrived at my great-unclesās (my grandmotherās brother, donāt know the correct term, so I call him my great-uncle) early. We had a good visit, with them and with some other family.
Iād packed the dinner I cooked, heated it up, we set the table nicely, and planned a festive dinner. Unfortunately, my great-uncle wasnāt feeling well. We were pretty worried about him.
Yoga the next morning ā I brought my mat, and, throughout the few days, I was grateful Iād done so. I kept going back to the mat time and time again to stay centered and focused.
My great-uncle was too ill to eat breakfast, so we tucked him in on the sofa so he could rest.
I got some writing done ā a bit of work done on the first Mick Feeney story, and about a thousand words on something else, that, if it works, will be something people enjoy. Iād plotted it out in my head in the car, made some notes, and got going. Iām going to set it in a fictional town in Maine, stretching geography to stuff it in around York.
My great-uncle was too ill to attend the dinner, and we were worried about leaving him home alone, but he insisted we go on.
As usual, the dinner was wonderful. Sixty-three people attended this year. A big hall is rented, with long tables decorated and set up. Down one side of the room, the food tables are set up, buffet-style. Along the other side of the room, this year, there were two tables of desserts. And Iām talking the long trestle-tables, not some dainty end table! The kitchen is enormous (I often joke thatās the size kitchen I want), with a huge stove and plenty of counter space to prepare big meals. My job is always to mash the potatoes. Which means standing on a step stool and wielding a four foot long potato masher because the pots are so big!
Almost everyone pitches in to do something, and everyone brings food, so itās a case of what needs to be prepared at the hall (the potatoes, sweet potatoes, peas, gravy, etc.) and what comes in ready and needs to be set out (the turkey, the creamed onions, etc.). We catch up as we do it. I really need to sit down and make up a map (family tree) because I can never figure out whoās related to whom and how, and, especially with the kids, they change so much from year to year that some of them seem like complete strangers every year. Also, Iām kind of shy and sometimes being around so many people is overwhelming, so staying busy in the kitchen is a good way for me to get talking to people and also contribute something to the overall dinner.
We had a real Six Degrees of Kevin Bacon moment (if you donāt know what that means ā look it up). One of the family members, now going to college at NYU (my alma mater), was in class with someone from the Broadway show on which I work occasionally. Too funny! The guy in the show was part of the original Broadway company, and had left before I arrived, but I know OF him, and itās one of those random events that shows just how small the world really is.
The food was great, the company was great, everyoneās considerate enough to keep the drama out of it and get along. Clean-up was quick, because there are so many people to help, and you just sort of catch up on a yearās worth of life.
What surprised and touched both my mother and I was that they are all adamant we keep joining them for Thanksgiving (weāve gone up every year since 1972, when my father died). The family up there is my grandmotherās extended family, and she included us after my father died, so it wouldnāt just be my mother and I on Thanksgiving. I missed three years in the mid-1980ās when I lived on the West Coast, and two years in the early 2000ās, when I had shows, but, other than that, weāve got every year since the 1970s. And we did wonder if this would be our last Thanksgiving together. But, over and over again, various members came and asked us to promise to keep coming up. Iād really like to.
Iām sure they wonder why I never bring up a boyfriend, but Maine is really my sanctuary, and Iād have to be pretty convinced that anyone I brought up there was going to stick around for awhile. Also, with the men currently in my life, they were all working this year, plus, from the outside, Iām sure the relationships seem far more complex than they actually are. Too much explaining involved.
Part of the loss of my grandmother equates to feeling like my safety net is gone.
My great-uncle was a little better when we got home, but still couldnāt eat or drink anything, which concerned us. He was livelier than heād been earlier, though, and we sat up and all had a good visit, swapping travel stories and trying to figure out how some people were related to each other. Iām telling you, I need a map!
We picked out the artwork created by my grandmother for the next dayās memorial breakfast, and I cleaned it so we could set it up in the restaurant. Went to bed pretty early, because I was tired; had hoped to get both more reading and writing done, but was just too worn out. We also figured out which of her friends still needed to be notified of the death, and weāll help with some of that this weekend.
Up early the next morning. My great-uncle still didnāt feel well, but wanted to come to the breakfast in memory of his sister, so another relative drove him over closer to the start time, while my mom and I packed the car with our stuff and the artwork and headed over early to help set up. A cousin of my grandmotherās also came with more artwork. It turns out that many people attending didnāt even know my grandmother was an artist.
She was very talented. She could paint, draw, work in pastel, pencil, pen and ink, charcoal, etching, silkscreen, and even do some metal art. She was a wonderful portraitist She was of the age where, as a woman, family and duty were always put before pursuing dreams, and that was always a bone of contention between us, because Iāve refused to get married and take care of a man rather than create a life in the arts. Iāve been lucky to have some great men in my life; Iāve also had some not-so-great men in my life; none of them have been worth giving up the writing. Writing is breathing to me, and Iāve been ruthless in not letting anyone keep me from the page. I also take care of an elderly mother, have taken care of several friends during terminal illness, and, when my grandmother was so sick in the last years, driven back and forth as often as possible to do whatever I could do help (although it never felt like enough, especially in these last years when she needed constant care). I havenāt met someone that I felt was an equal partner on this journey on a daily basis, and Iām not willing to settle for less. Iām willing to compromise, but not capitulate. I see far too much capitulation in far too many relationships around me, and, for the most part, itās still the woman whoās expected to give everything up to āsupportā the man, instead of each supporting the other. It created huge tensions between us at times, but I made the right decision for me. I believe she could have been a working artist ā she was a working art teacher for years ā but there was always the excuse of needing to ādoā for someone else. That was her choice, and I hope it was the right one for her, although one canāt help but wonder about her untapped potential.
In any case, the breakfast was lovely. It was good to see people again and chat a bit without waving a four-foot potato masher! People got up and shared stories, and letters from others who couldnāt be there were read. So it was a happy, joyful gathering, the kind that would have made her happy. She made everything fun, like baking and gardening and canning. She taught me how to ride a bicycle. She tried to teach me how to swim, but I still canāt swim ā thatās my fault, not hers. She was interested in everything.
Driving away from Maine this time, the reality that sheās no longer with us really started to hit home.
The first half of the drive was in vile weather, pouring rain. The second half of the drive was in vile traffic, especially around the malls.
We called to check on my great-uncle when we got home, and heās feeling much better. Heās still going to the doctor this week, but at least he didnāt have to be rushed to the ER.
So: at three Wal-Marts in the area, people were seriously injured. At one Wal-Mart, an employee was trampled to death. As most of you know, I loathe Wal-Mart, and Iāll drive 150 miles out of my way rather than shop at one, because their policies disgust me so much. The disgusting type of customer they attract, the type that would trample an employee to death, is a prime example of why I loathe the store and have such a low opinion of those who shop there. I donāt care how low their prices are ā where you shop, where you spend your hard-earned cash, indicates what your morals and values are ā whether itās there or anywhere else. The type of shopper Wal-Mart attracts is the type of person who tramples an employee to death and shoves rescue workers out of the way when they try to resuscitate him. In my opinion, the cops need to take the time to dissect the surveillance video, identify these bastards (run it on television if need be, someone will recognize these people), and put them away because they are a danger to society. They are murderers, and should be prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law. I bet the majority of these murderers go to church every Sunday, too, and consider themselves āgood Christians.ā Religious hypocrisy at work, yet again.
A weak economy is not a viable excuse to murder a store employee by trampling him to death. This cannot be shrugged off.
Yet it will be, because thatās how the Bush administrationās policies have filtered down over the past eight years and all weāve seen from the top down is that itās okay behave with greed and avarice, no matter who gets hurt. The Bush administration led by example, encouraging people to be their worst selves.
Cats werenāt too destructive while we were gone, although a few things were knocked over, and they were happy we were back, behaving like Velcro kitties.
I got a shock when I opened the extremely late check from one of my editors ā itās unsigned. Which means I canāt deposit it. To say I am livid is an understatement. I donāt believe for one second that it was a mistake. It was a complete āfuck youā from this place. I sent a polite (barely) but terse email to her. I do not want to have to wait another two weeks for this check. I want it replaced on Monday and sent overnight. It wonāt be, but hey, this will be the last time I work for them anyway. A bridge worth burning, in my opinion, especially since, financially, I am now totally screwed for the coming week. What a different experience from the last anthology on which I worked with them, where they paid promptly and pleasantly. If theyāre in financial difficulty, they need to be upfront with us. Screwing us in this way is simply not acceptable.
I have to have a discussion with another editor on Monday. Iām supposed to receive royalty statements and royalties by the 20th of every month. The last royalty statement I received was in September and Iāve yet to see a penny of royalties. I know the book is selling, and I want the monies due.
Iām tired of these people jerking around writers. This is why all writers and all writing should be unionized ā so payments must be made on time or else there are strong consequences.
Nothing like coming back from a few difficult emotional days to complete and utter unprofessional bullshit, right?
Busy day today. I havenāt worked on the mystery; too much on my mind. I need to get a lot done in order to hit the ground running this week and figure out a way to make up instantly the shortfall from the unsigned check.
Mark your calendar ā Iām on the radio show hosted by the League of Extraordinary Paranormal Women on December 11 at 8 PM EST. Itās on blogtalk radio, so Iāll post the link, and if you canāt listen to it live, you can listen to it some other time.
Back to dealing with life.
Devon
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